As the year comes to a close, many women begin reflecting on what worked, what didn’t, and what still feels unfinished. Some feel proud of what they accomplished, while others quietly carry the frustration of another year passing without moving forward in the way they hoped. You may relate to that tension. You know you’re grateful, and you know God has been faithful, but there may still be a part of you that wonders why certain goals, ideas, or shifts in your calling didn’t happen this year.

This is a common experience for women who feel called to ministry or Kingdom leadership. They often end the year with good intentions but still feel unclear about their next steps. The issue is not a lack of desire or passion, but a lack of alignment about who they are becoming. Before you make new goals or resolutions, there is one question that can shift everything about how you enter the next year:

“Who is God calling me to become in this next season?”

This question redirects your focus. It encourages you to step away from performance-driven thinking and move toward identity-based growth. When you approach the year from this angle, your decisions, habits, and goals become more intentional because they are rooted in who God is shaping you to be.

Why This Question Matters

Asking who you are becoming changes the way you approach the year. It shifts your thinking from short-term accomplishments to long-term transformation. Here are four reasons this question matters:

1. It clarifies your direction.

When you understand the woman God is forming in you, it becomes much easier to see which choices align with your purpose and which ones pull you off track. Many women experience confusion not because they lack ability but because they are trying to pursue goals that do not match their calling. Becoming-centered clarity helps you eliminate distractions and stop spreading yourself thin across tasks that do not matter. This sort of clarity creates consistency and makes room for real growth.

2. It reduces fear and hesitation.

Fear becomes stronger when you focus on outcomes you cannot predict or control. When your attention shifts toward becoming the person God is shaping you into, fear loses its influence because you are no longer measuring your worth by results. You are focusing on growth instead of perfection. This mindset reduces pressure, builds confidence, and makes forward movement easier because you know that your identity is not tied to whether something works immediately.

3. It simplifies your decisions.

Decision-making becomes easier when you know who you are becoming. Instead of trying to evaluate every option or worrying about choosing the wrong path, you can simply ask whether the choice supports your development. This removes a lot of mental strain and eliminates unnecessary overthinking. When your decisions are based on identity rather than fear or obligation, you move through the year with more confidence and consistency.

4. It helps you set realistic, meaningful goals.

Goals that come from pressure or comparison are difficult to maintain. However, when your goals come from a clear sense of identity, they become more sustainable and achievable. Becoming-focused goals help you prioritize what truly matters instead of chasing every idea or expectation that comes your way. They also help you avoid burnout because you are building from a grounded and aligned place, not from stress or urgency.

A Realistic Look at Becoming

Many Christian women feel frustrated because they spent another year delaying their calling, not because they lacked desire but because they lacked clarity. They kept waiting for confirmation, the “right time,” or the perfect moment, but those moments rarely arrive on their own. What is often missing is intentional development, growing into the person who is ready to steward what God has placed inside them.

The woman God is calling you to become in the next season is likely more focused, more confident, more willing to take action, and more open to being visible. She is not driven by fear, confusion, or perfectionism. She is decisive and aligned.

Identifying this version of yourself allows you to build a year that supports who God is shaping you to be rather than repeating patterns that keep you stuck.

Reflection Questions for the New Year

Use these questions to help you gain clarity before stepping into the new year:

• What habits, mindsets, or patterns do I need to release before entering the new year?
  Be honest about what holds you back. This could include overcommitting, doubting your abilities, or avoiding the steps that would move your ministry forward.
  
  
• In what ways did I minimize myself or avoid opportunities this year?
  Consider the areas where you hesitated, stayed quiet, or held back. Acknowledging this helps you understand what needs to change.
  
  
• Where did fear influence my decisions or slow down my momentum?
  Fear often shows up as procrastination, perfectionism, or second-guessing. Naming where fear showed up allows you to address it more effectively.
  
  
• What does the next-level version of me look like in discipline, confidence, and obedience?
  Picture the characteristics, behaviors, and decisions of the woman God is calling you to be. This helps you establish clear expectations for yourself.
  
  
• What is one practical step I can commit to in January that aligns with who I am becoming?
  This step should be small, specific, and realistic. You do not need a dramatic leap. You need a consistent and intentional step.
  
  

Final Thoughts

Many women feel like they are behind because they haven’t launched their ministry, written the book, or taken the steps they sense God is calling them to take. But you are not behind. God has been preparing you, even in the seasons that felt slow, unclear, or unproductive.

What you may see as delay has often been development. Internal growth usually happens before external progress becomes visible. Your willingness to pause, reflect, and make intentional choices going forward is evidence that you are moving in the right direction.

As you step into the new year, I invite you to take one clear step toward the clarity and confidence you’ve been praying for. You do not have to walk this journey alone. Our Free Faith-To-Business Masterclass is designed to help you gain direction for your calling and start the year from a place of purpose instead of pressure.